Most people can’t continue denying it for very long. Denial soon gives way to feelings of anger, rage, jealousy and hatred.
For the person who has experienced a great loss and for people in your family, this is a particularly difficult stage to deal with. Some peoples anger is directed outward.
Because I had a father who constantly lost his temper with his family, my anger was directed inward. Which can be dangerous? This is when my thoughts turned to suicide. Thankfully, I was honest with my wife Christy about these feelings and immediately got professional help. Anti-depressants work.
Other anger can be directed to medical professionals, to friends and to God. For me I choose; at this stage; to be like Paul, to be positive no matter what state I am in. So my relationship with God got even stronger.
At times it can seem that your anger is arbitrary and indiscriminate and frustrating. However, it is important to remember that underneath the anger is pain. Your loved ones only want you to not hurt.
Anger though is part of the process that replaces the structured idea of what we thought we had ahead of us. Those plans like many of us, included travel to see our new Grandson in New Zealand, but this was also the start of the Covid Pandemic and we like many were just coming to grips with that big change to our lives.
Accept Understanding and Support
Understanding and acceptance on the part of those close to the you will help bring about acceptance. A negative reaction will lessen the chances of acceptance and bring about feelings of isolation.
Anger gave me structure, it is an emotion that replaces the the lost of what was planned. when I was diagnosed it gave me a way to still feel connected to those around me at a time when I felt lost.