What Does Dementia Feel Like?

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This is a topic we are going to discuss periodically… What does it really feels like to have dementia?  We’re going to come back to this again over a series of the Podcast and YouTube talks and Articles. Each time we di it will create a new benchmark on my progress to help you see firsthand the change in someone with dementia.   

As I said from the beginning, we are going to continue to do this website and broadcast; Dementia Talks; as long as I’m capable.

But, before I get into today’s topic, I want to talk about what it means to live positively with dementia.

Living Positively work for many people

 Interestingly enough, you can apply these lessons to anyone that is struggling’s with pain in your day-to-day life as well. 

Living positively increases the serotonin level within your brain improves when you are positive and happy.  Negative thoughts alternatively turn out to negatively affecting you both physically and mentally.

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In my Article about 10 Ways to live a Positive with Dementia.  I identified key things you can do to live positively each day.  The National Library of Medicine (part of NIH) paper, identified thankfulness as one of the most important ways to be positive. 

Digging deeper into the research, being thankful is the first step. It is also a great method to deal with the stigma of people have with dementia.

Positive Living and Thankfulness

I know it is really tough when we are talking about dementia. How can anyone be positive or thankful about living with dementia?  But the reality is that living positively is a choice, and it is a choice that turns out can help you with a mental disease like dementia or it can also help you with many physical diseases.

So, this isn’t just a discussion for people who have dementia, and maybe, just maybe we can dispel some ideas about what’s the difference between aging and dementia.

Dementia and Alzheimer’s

Dementia and Alzheimer’s fall under a broad category call Dementia.  Confusing right… well, that the medical field.

Dementia is a broad category that covers Alzheimer’s and many different types of Dementia.

I have Lewy body Dementia;  I was diagnosed with it a year ago February.   After a year the diagnoses stands.  My progress is from MRI only showing moderate degeneration, my comprehensive memory evaluation shows a moderate decline, so it sticks.

Early Stage Dementia

So let’s use this is an opportunity first to say here’s what it’s like to have dementia in the early stages.   As opposed to all stages.  I can’t cannot speak openly and honestly about someone having dementia in the later stages.

I can think about it and I can think about how dementia affects me today and how it will affect me in the future but all fairness.  I cannot be the one to tell you what dementia feels like in its latter stages.

The challenge that you have with people that have dementia in the latter stages is that they will struggle with telling you what they feel. So my goal is to create an understanding of what dementia is, additionally we can together see how it progresses.

Dementia vs Alzheimer’s.

Let’s start by talking about some of the key differences between dementia and Alzheimer’s.

As my doctor says and the NIH says dementia is not aging.  Some forms of dementia can last a very long time.  You may have it early or know someone with early onset and not even know it, you may just be putting it off to aging.

The same can be true for Alzheimer’s it can be slow progressing or it can progress rapidly.

In my case I have Lewy body Dementia, LBD is predominantly a rapid progressing disease mainly because of the way Lewy Bodies not only affects things mentally they also can affect you physically. Other types of dementia do this as well. Some may only affect you from a cognitive point of view other multiple aspects of memory and physical issues.

So first thing is to separate Alzheimer’s from other types of dementia that only affect cognitive memory. Alzheimer’s is about general all memory both short terms and long-term; like mixing things up over that happened a long time ago about things, people, and places. Where other specific types of dementia may only the effect the cognitive memory.

Cognitive memory is the ability to remember things that just happened, i.e. short term.  We all know the test that we get the doctor’s office if you’re over 65 where they ask you to remember these four words… My Dr. at Cleveland clinic will admit that those test don’t really tell them anything.  They’re like an ekg those test are not full diagnostics but they do give a good point of reference.  Like with a heart problem, properly diagnose dementia takes a comprehensive test and evaluation and other indicators including a MRI the comprehensive test takes about a three-hours.

The test starts out with most of the same things we have seen before, but it quickly develops into a much more comprehensive evaluation around remembering words and numbers backwards and forwards and all sorts of different things.  After this test is given there may be other test and exams.

How does Dementia affect me

So, let’s talk about the subject of the conversation.  Let’s talk about what dementia feels like from a first person point of view what it feels like for me. 

First, I am not talking about how it feels for all people who have dementia, we all are individuals. But here is what I have learned:

• The mornings are the best!   The reason is our brains have had a chance to regenerate. Our cognitive memories are at their best point, so you hear people say I’m great in the morning and about noon or sometime in the afternoon I’m not only exhausted “I hit the wall” because everything starts to get confusing.
• The things which we deal with that require power from our brain on a minute by minute basis start getting harder and harder to process.   This is one reason why quite frankly if you know someone that has dementia and you’re talking to them in the afternoon or the evening, You need to slow down. It is harder for them to process what you’re saying, at least that is how it feels to me.
• God has blessed me with a high IQ and what my doctor calls is a very fast processor.   This one of the reasons I can still do what I’m doing here today.   But my processing speed, over the day diminishes dramatically.  Around 1 or 2 o’clock in the afternoon I have to take a nap / rest and then that regenerate for a time. 
• There is this process in the dementia community is called “spending your all of your chips”.   It’s like at the beginning of the of the day I get my day’s allotment and I can choose how you want to spend them up. If I spent too many early, I run into the wall early.  After that I feel the fog, that lack of ability to process what is said or going on slows down. 
• This can very overwhelming it can be discouraging and can be depressing.   But, the answer to that is to understand what you’re dealing with and to build coping mechanisms that not help you during the day; so that when you do hit the wall; you can deal with things as they become hard to process.
• Coping mechanisms help you deal with this problem because if you have a coping mechanisms such as to-do list instead of trying to remember everything.  Making a list stops the spending of chits to try to remember something.
• I have become religious making a list.   It takes far less mental energy to keep that last minute to-do in your head if you know it is on paper. 
• The second part building coping mechanisms is simple things like avoiding things which tax your brain.  Like complexity, i.e. to many things to choose from, clutter, too many things in the refrigerator or closet.

Another example of complexity is, if you are really in the sci-fi action movie, etc. like I was; or you really like movies that have a fair amount of violence and lot of action. These shows require an enormous amount of processing power because you’re dealing with a lot of information coming at you very quickly.   When we do not have do not have dementia, we can find it quite it quite enjoyable because the quick pace creates a challenge for us and keeps us engaged.

When you have dementia; it may not be a problem at first but it will; eventually too much information will become a problem.

Last, when your brain is overtaxed, it is normal to act angry or disturbed.  If it is not a problem now it but it will become a problem later.

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On a Positive Note

The other things such like listening to music, actually helps you deal with dementia because it uses another part of your brain that allows you to actually gain some chits back by reducing the amount of processing or thinking that you’ve done, on the cognitive side of your brain.

On Wanderinglite.com (that is Lite), we have identified a number of the most important things you can do to deal with dementia.

More about how it feels to have dementia

But, let’s go back on to talk about what it feels to have dementia. I am sure you have heard that some people get angry when they have dementia.  First off all, if they’re trying to live positively then chances are that’s not their normal first response.

But let’s talk about where that anger comes from.   Remember, I said, the further along you are with dementia, the earlier in the day it gets harder to process what people are saying to you.

So when people ignore that.  When people do not respect or remember, we’re talking about a disability. Just because you can’t see it doesn’t mean it’s not a disability.   So when people; even family members don’t respect that, when people talk too fast, it is natural to become argumentative with you, or worse they will insist on their point of view without listening to yours.

This is a normal response for a person even if they’re trying to live positively.  It can be a great sense of frustration which, as most of us know, can lead to anxiety and anger.

So, when you hear about people with dementia being angry;  I dare say that 85% the problem is with not with a person with dementia but with other people not understanding the makings of this mental disease.

This is one of the key reasons why we need education about what dementia is and reduce the stigmatism around dementia if we’re ever going to have people start respecting people who have mental diseases.

So again,  just because you can’t see a disease doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.  

Struggling with Words

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Another hard part of dementia is when you cannot come up with the words that you need.   All of us will say, oh that happens to me all the time.   I don’t have dementia, maybe you to maybe you do, but forgetting things is to some degree a normal part of aging.

Far too often people use the aging excuse and they may have some early onset dementia.

Early Diagnosis is Critical

Not getting it diagnosed can be a real problem. But, let’s talk continue to talk about what it feels like when you can’t get those to those words.  They can be simple word or simple things that you should be able to remember.

In conversation you want to communicate or just thinking about something, or some important point.

Here what is unique about dementia. Normally you could just put it off and can go about your business, but with dementia you keep digging into your head for that word.   Remember your spending chips in that process as well.

Spending Chits

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The more chits you spend or the faster you spend them the more difficult it gets and your aptitude diminishes.  Worse, your overall attitude becomes poor. 

This is why when you have dementia and you find yourself searching for that word and you can’t find it you may even be early on in your dementia journey.

It will take discipline to allow yourself to leave that word alone (and yes some people try to create substitutes for it) so that it does not take any more mental energy.   

Building Disciplines

But that discipline that allows you not to keep struggling and struggling and struggling for that word and this concept of spending chips is one of the most important things a person with dementia needs to understand. 

The earlier you learn it the better off you will be. This is why early diagnosis is so important.

Pretending you don’t have it

The last part about living with dementia is the fact is knowing that it is not going to get better over time.  You have to be OK with that.

Sometimes I’m doing great, other times I’m not doing great.  Sometimes when I am doing great, I want to think I don’t have it anymore, or it has gone into remission, but it doesn’t work that way.

What it does do if my mind has healed enough overnight, I may have a series of good days.   For me,  many times I don’t want to buy into the process, but the reality is that the process is still all already underway, even when you’re in one of those good days.

Now is the time to build Coping Mechanisms

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Those are the times to be building your coping mechanisms changing; your new daily habits; learning to wake up each day thankful.  Being thankful for your situation, being thankful for your family, being thankful for God’s great blessing.

Being Thankful is a Habit

Turning those things of thankfulness into positive living energy that will get you through the day.  Because positive living is a day-to-day discipline that is the most necessary requirement to combatting dementia.  

I knew needed to make positive living is a habit for everyday.  When I wake up, I don’t have to tell myself to be positive each day; I do it because I been doing it for a year and a half.

Now I know, I am far better off living each day positively, sharing with people, being with people, talking to people, learning things, drawing, painting, those all are all things that help my day be positive.

So, building that into a habit early on is critical.

In Closing.

I hope these things help?  I’m sure I have generated several questions.  Please feel free to ask those questions, either on the YouTube channel,  or when you are listening to or watching this through wanderinglite.com

So if you’re watching or listing to this on Dementia Talks podcast or YouTube channel, the place to go get your answers is Wanderinglite.com.

Soon we will have the redirect from Dementiatalks.net directly to Wandering Lite

Please, we not only want those questions and comment, we want to share those so we can be be able to help you and help others, because I’m sure your questions not only one.

Again, for your benefit and for others, please, please, ask questions.

That’s all for today, I hope you’ve enjoyed this discussion today and as always have a positive day.

Ted